Someone recently asked me… where has all the kindness gone?
And I said, in today’s world, more and more demands are being placed on us.
We’re all multitasking to various extents.
Pretending to juggle work, finances, children, spouses, retirement packages, car repair, home care, and the often forgotten self care.
As a result, we’re oftentimes hurrying and in a state of anxiety as we move from one place to the next. Those places may be external, from the office to the bank to the home.
Or they might be internal, from one worry to another. Anxiety and business trample over many things in life.
But most of all, they trample over kindness.
When I’m in a rush, when I’m under pressure, those times I prioritize getting things done at all costs – that’s at all costs to my own wellbeing, and at a cost to the relationships around me.
If we consider times when we’re most likely to act angrily or unkindly to our wives, husbands, ourselves, or our friends at work… it’s usually in moments of greatest stress.
Reclaiming kindness is not so much the act of adding more kindness to our lives. In all of us there’s a tender heart waiting to be found, buried alive under the business.
Rather, creating kindness is more about the reduction of the business, the anxiety, and the stress, so that our natural kindness can have room and space to bubble up and be experienced and expressed.
Of course, the task of reducing our stress in a world so full of demands is easier said than done. For many the key to stress reduction will come from those moments when we can slow down, catch our breaths, and reassure ourselves that it will be okay.
We can slow our rhythm back down from an artificial rhythm of business to the natural rhythm of deep breathing.
From that place of deep breathing, we can take the time to communicate to ourselves and to each other with openness, vulnerability, and kindness.