Welcome back. Today I want to help you cope with challenges of difficult relationships during the holidays.
I’ll get right to the helping. One of the biggest struggles you might face over the holidays is relational struggles with family or friend. In response to a difficult interaction, you’ll have 3 courses choices – avoid, attack, or invite.
You can avoid the issue and hope it goes away, but of course you run the risk of it building internally.
Which leads to your second option – you can always attack the person, with angry words or angry looks. Perhaps not the best model of the holiday season.
But, as you’ve probably guessed, I’m going to invite you to go with the third option – invite. If you can share with some vulnerability, “I wanted to reach out and ask for your help. I’m feeling sad about you not getting me a gift, and I’d be grateful if you could acknowledge that this hurt me.” That would be one example of inviting a dialogue. And if it’s not possible to have that dialogue directly with the person who you’re struggling with, then perhaps invite a dialogue with someone who can listen, sharing those words with someone who will care, so you can get some validation for the feeling.
At the end of the day, this holiday is all about relationship – about being together. And I hope this short video helps you find a way to soothe any relational struggles, so you can come together in the spirit of season.