Some degree of worry is a part of any relationship, but if you’re struggling to trust your partner and are being consumed by destructive, paranoid thoughts, you could be putting your relationship at a very real risk.
Keeping your doubts in perspective and learning to love yourself, first and foremost, is the advice from experts for keeping your relationship healthy, and here are some of the ways that you can aim to achieve this:
- Try to resist texting or calling when your partner is out with their friends
Whatever reason you give your partner for calling or texting them when they’re out with friends, it may give them the impression that you’re checking up on them, and therefore don’t trust them. Instead, try doing something you enjoy in the time that they’re away from you.
- Why shouldn’t you go out and have some fun too?
Sitting home alone, worrying about what your partner might be getting up to, or simply waiting for them to return, usually only makes matters worse. Why not go out and have some fun with your friends, too, then you’ll both have something to talk about when your partner comes back.
- If your partner has cheated, be honest with each other about the future of the relationship
For some couples, cheating symbolizes the end of the relationship, but for others, they may be able to work through their issues and resolve them; a lot will of course depend on individual circumstances. However, if either party would like to resume the relationship but trust issues remain, then talking to a counselor might prove therapeutic and enable them to save their partnership.
- Don’t allow social media to fuel your paranoia
Social media can be a fun pastime for many, but for others it can be incredibly debilitating and fuel negative thoughts and emotions. Obsessing over a partners social media posts often serves only to make you make more insecure and distrustful, so instead of stalking your partner online, try asking them openly about whatever it is you’ve seen that you would like to know more about.
- Practice being mindful
Mindfulness might be a bit of a buzzword, but what it translates to can be hugely helpful if you’re suffering from paranoia. Being mindful teaches you to embrace the moment and notice is what happening around you, both from an emotional and physical standpoint. Think hard about the thoughts you’re currently having, how they’re triggering the way you’re feeling, and how you might be able to change those thought patterns to help yourself. A trained counselor or therapist can help you to better understand what mindfulness truly means and how it can help you.
- Love yourself
Last, but by no means least, loving yourself is vital if you want to trust someone else who loves you. Insecurities that you might have about yourself will be reflected in the relationships that you have, so try to love yourself for who you are, and you’ll find it easier to embrace someone else’s love for you.
Relationships can be challenging, and if you’re struggling to cope with feelings of paranoia about your partner that just won’t go away, try seeking professional help, and learn how to cherish and nurture, rather than struggle in, your relationship.
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