If you’re reading this page, you’re probably hurting somehow. Maybe you’re experiencing:
- Substance abuse
- Marital strife
- Parent-child conflict
- Relationship struggles
- Traumatic events
- Hurts from the past
Whatever it is, something’s got you down.
You’d like some competent, caring support to help you get through this tough time, to help you reclaim your sense of well-being and vitality.
You’ve come to the right place.
Not only would I love to help, but I also have a team of people with the skill and ability to do just that. We call our practice Heart Centered Counseling.
We are here to help anyone in the Northern Colorado or Greater Denver area who is looking for a therapist or counselor. Our goal is to help you feel well and whole again.
We have psychiatrists on staff in most of our offices.
GET RELIEF TODAY
Care. Compassion. And Help.
Carl R Nassar, LPC, CIP, CIIPTS, Director, Heart Centered Counseling, Fort Collins, Colorado
How Does It Work?
There is one primary goal I have for anyone who’s reading this page: to get you connected with someone you can trust and with whom you feel comfortable.
At Heart Centered Counseling we have decades of combined experience working with clients dealing with issues just like yours.
Whatever you’re struggling with, I want you to know, we can connect you with someone who can help.
All of our therapists provide 100% confidential, nonjudgmental environments for you. We know seeking out a therapist can be frightening, and we want you to feel comfortable right from the start.
To help you understand the process we go through at Heart Centered Counseling, I want to tell you about Shelly, one of my clients, and how the process worked for her….
An Example of Healing: Shelly’s Story
What follows is the true story of Shelly, one of my clients at Heart Centered Counseling. I’ve changed her name and altered the details to ensure her privacy.
But the story of healing is 100% true.
From the outside looking in, you would never have known Shelly was hurting. She hid her pain from everyone and had been doing so for years.
Unfortunately, deep pain like Shelly was experiencing can often manifest itself through anxiety-related physical illnesses.
Shelly was sick, both physically and emotionally. That was what brought her to Heart Centered Counseling.
The initial consult and early sessions
I met with Shelly for her initial consult. She told me a bit about what was happening. I offered her care and validation. I explained the counseling process, and how I would help her heal.
She felt comfortable with me, and confident in the counseling process. We continued meeting.
Shelly was very reserved at the start. She had never confided in anyone, let alone a guy in a counseling office she had just met. But she relaxed into the safety and comfort of the counseling environment. And she felt encouragement and care from me.
Quickly, she realized there was nothing to fear from speaking about her struggles. And she opened up. She shared what she had hidden inside for so long. She shared what very much needed to come out.
Helping Shelly Find Immediate Relief
Shelly needed to learn how to effectively process the fear and stress we all experience at times. In her case, anxiety had built up over the years, and often overwhelmed her.
Together, we walked through several powerful techniques that helped her regain calm whenever she experienced stress and anxiety. In Shelly’s case, these techniques included:
- Effective communication
- Positive life decision making
- Several other skills
It didn’t happen overnight, but soon, Shelly began to feel better. She could maintain composure when difficult things came her way.
Shelly stopped turning to destructive coping mechanisms to soothe her anxiety. Instead of overeating and drinking alcohol, she started feeling like she could use these new skills and feel in charge of her life.
Finding a Long-Term Cure
As Shelly progressed, we discussed the underlying cause of her struggles. Our goal was to uncover, uproot, and resolve the cause of her pain and provide her with a long-term cure.
In Shelly’s case, we traced her pain back to her childhood, to a mother who was very anxious. Shelly’s mother’s anxiety led to a myriad of struggles for Shelly growing up.Any time Shelly had a difficult emotion around her mother, her mother acted quickly to minimize Shelly’s feeling. Her mother often gave Shelly ice cream or a new toy to help her forget about whatever she was upset about.As a result, Shelly never experienced validation or acceptance—from someone else—in response to her feelings. She kept everything inside, hidden from everyone, a pattern that continued all the way into adulthood.
Her guardedness led to a profound feeling of aloneness and fear. It had alienated her from her husband and kept her from developing any real trusting friendships.
She felt she was—truly and completely—alone.
We worked together on this this issue. In time, Shelly learned to move through her isolation.
Shelly learned to share her needs and feelings in session with me at first. Then she worked through some of her unresolved feelings with her mother. And, most importantly, for the first time, she began sharing her emotional needs with her husband and her close friends. And she began to find love and acceptance for who she was—an experience she’d waited for her entire life.
This work, more than anything, has helped Shelly heal from her emotional and physical problems.
As she would say, “I don’t feel so alone anymore. I have people I can trust now. When I feel sad or anxious, I can go to them and know it’s going to be ok.”
What You Can Learn from Shelly
Your struggles might be very different from Shelly’s, but the process of beginning counseling with us is similar.
Shelly’s road to healing began with a simple phone call to our office and an initial consult with me.
From there, she learned a set of brand new skills she continues to use as she lives her day-to-day life.
And finally, she uncovered and resolved the root of her pain: the problems she had with her mother as a young child.It took physical illness to finally compel Shelly to reach out for help. If you’re struggling, I encourage you not to wait until you become sick.Your journey of healing can begin today, just like Shelly’s did. When you’re ready, give us a call or send us an email at the contact information on this page.
All calls and emails are free and strictly confidential.
I look forward to hearing from you.