I worry that we’re losing our quiet moments.
Don’t get me wrong; I love my iPhone. The ability to instantly connect with friends, family, and colleagues all over the globe provides dramatic benefits to me both personally and professionally.
But in our connectedness, it’s incredibly easy to forget how beneficial a few moments of silence can be.
We spend our morning hurrying to get ready for work, hurrying to get the kids ready for school, and then fighting traffic on our way to drop them off. We hurry through our days at work, trying to get everything done so we have less to do tomorrow, or less to take home with us. And we get home in time to make dinner, maybe have a bit of time with the family or friends. Then, it’s off to the TV and then to bed.
It may seem like life is one endless stretch of obligations, but I think if you were to look closely, you’d see that there are still some gaps in your days.
Perhaps it’s in the shower. Maybe you always have some time right before you go to sleep. Or maybe you always take a morning run.
These moments pop up throughout our days. They are times when the world asks nothing of us. When we have nothing we have to do, and nowhere we have to go.
When these times happen in your life, what do you do with them.?
When you’re walking down a long hallway—or whatever it might be for you—where does your mind go?
Do you busy your thoughts with the unresolved anxieties of the day, becoming more anxious as you trample over the quiet moment with your thoughts? Do you distract yourself with your phone? Do you turn to a beer or a mood-altering drug?
I’d like to propose that you consider what you could do with your quiet moments.
What if you made those moments sacred? What if instead of distracting yourself, you decided to just stay in the present and sit with how you feel?
You don’t have to analyze anything or fix your problems or make any big resolutions. You’d just take the moment as it comes, get in touch with your feelings, and see what you might do as a good friend to yourself.
Be kind to yourself in those moments. Come alongside and simply ask the question, “how are you feeling?” And then allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling at the time—loneliness, sadness, excitement, disappointment. Any emotion is acceptable.
Because really, the quiet moments are when we can learn the most about ourselves. If we run from them, we’re running from ourselves.
But if we embrace the quiet moments when they come, we also embrace our lives and ourselves.
Today, when the quiet moments come…
…what will you do with them?
Visit Carl or one of the other therapists at Heart-Centered Counseling at their new location in the heart of Old Town at 320 W. Olive Street, Fort Collins, CO, 80521.