Everyone has some baggage from previous experiences that they carry around. It is a normal part of life but it is not a healthy one. Unwanted or harmful baggage affects our daily tasks and interactions. Even if you forget about it for years, it only takes one trigger word or experience to bring it back. You should not have to carry this baggage around. However, the question is not how one can avoid any baggage at all. The right question is how can one heal from past experiences.
Understand what happened. Sometimes these past experiences can be so discomforting because you still do not fully understand what happened. It is okay. You were younger and more limited. Now, you are more knowledgeable and experienced. Think about what happened and try to rationalize it better. Take control of the experience instead of letting it take control of you!
Take Care of Yourself. When you feel like your baggage may be triggered, let it trigger. You understand it now and you know that the pain is in the past. Focus on the present. By becoming aware of what is happening to you, you are already taking care of your baggage. The more you take care of yourself, the more the trigger begins to dissolve over time.
Get Back Up. Recovering is not about how few times you will fall down. It is about how many times you get back up. Healing is an up-and-down process. Sometimes it feels like the baggage is only getting heavier. The most important thing is to get back up and take care of yourself. Greater awareness and self-appreciation will ultimately free you from your baggage.
When it feels like no matter how often you try but you cannot escape your baggage, it may be time to seek counseling services to help. Perhaps you need another person to listen to your experience and help you understand what happened. Maybe you just need a second opinion on what to do next. Do not hesitate to fight with someone else. Reach out to the people you can lean on!