How To Overcome Negative Self Talk

Posted By: on July 18, 2019
depressed girl suffering from negative self talk
We often hear how our words can hurt others, to be mindful of what we say, and so on. However, the focus is almost always on harming someone else. We sometimes forget the same is true for ourselves. The way we think and speak to ourselves can dictate how we live our lives. It is something we rarely think about but can have a tremendous effect on our self-esteem and outlook on life. We interpret everything we go through and see, and when we negatively do that, we start to feel differently. The

Three books To Supplement Your Therapy Sessions

Posted By: on July 11, 2019
therapist reading a book
If you’re like me, you’re constantly seeking ways to improve yourself or your mental health outside of your therapy sessions. It’s no secret that there is an abundance of “self-help” information out there. At times, it can seem like too much and you don’t even know where to start. These are three books I’ve enjoyed throughout the years, each one with its own pros and cons. Begin by asking your counselor for recommendations or simply choosing which approach to well-being seems best

Communication is Key

Posted By: on July 04, 2019
2 friends talking on the beach
There is one thing that many people don’t think about when it comes to utilizing mental health services: communication. Communication is key for patients, families, and service providers. When not done effectively and honestly, it can delay and lessen services that patients need. There are three types of relationships where communication is important when providing proper mental health services: patient and mental health service provider, patient’s family and mental health service provide

Depression is Much More Than Just “Feeling Sad”

Posted By: on June 27, 2019
person suffering from depression
There’s a common misconception that depression is just being sad or feeling sorry for yourself. The truth is that there is so much more to depression than just “feeling sad.” As somebody with bipolar disorder who has been going through a depressive episode lately, let me share with you some of the other ways that depression can affect you.  Loss of Energy People with depression are often accused of being lazy when they stop doing self-care or other “normal” tasks. In reality, depr

Some Days Are Harder Than Others

Posted By: on June 20, 2019
dealing with my CPTSD
When dealing with my CPTSD, OCD, and major depressive disorder, some days are harder than others. When that happens, I try to tell myself gently that it’s just one of those days. “It’s just one of those days. This, too, will pass,” I remind myself. This gentle reminder is a mindfulness exercise that helps me keep things in perspective. There are other tools I’ve learned that help me get through these days as well. For instance, sometimes it helps to make a mental list of improvement

Three Reasons You Should NOT Deal with Depression Alone

Posted By: on June 13, 2019
depressed person gazing into the lake
Depression is acknowledged as one of the most common mental health concerns in the United States. Depression is known as a mood disorder that can completely disrupt your life and the life of those you love the most. There are different classifications of Depression, but all classifications have similar effects on how you feel, think, and act: Just a few signs and indicators of Depression are: Unexplainable fatigue Loss of appetite Feeling restless Feeling sad and empty constant

Should I Take a Self-Evaluation Quiz to See if I Am Co-Dependent?

Posted By: on June 06, 2019
man sitting next to woman
My mother mentioned co-dependency to me before I started wondering if I too was living in a codependent relationship with my four year long boyfriend. She was getting divorced again, and finding helpful guidance from therapy and something I had never heard before, CoDa, which is a free meeting place for people to develop healthy relationships. The more my mother would talk about her counseling sessions, as well as her CoDa meetings, the more I became interested in seeing if I was codependent.

How to Keep Social Media From Affecting Your Mental Health

Posted By: on May 30, 2019
students on social media
As much as we don’t want to admit it, some of us have an unhealthy relationship with social media.   Are you addicted to the rush of a new notification? Do you sometimes feel inadequate as you scroll through the happy faces of your friends and family? Are you overwhelmed by “experts” in social media ads telling you what you should be doing, how you should look, or what you should feel?   You’re not alone.   Even though there’s been more and more researc

My First Counselor was a Rosebush

Posted By: on May 23, 2019
rosebush
I was in college and living in a house I had just bought...for $17,000. It was in the old, run-down part of town– it was an old, run-down kind of house. But it was mine. I had been charmed by its 1920s brass door handles and grandmotherly smell, but what I was really excited by were the rosebushes out front. Crazy rose vines with gnarled old trunks clenched like fists around the wild tangle of canes that climbed wildly up and around the chain link fence. My grandmother loved roses and had t

One Small Act to Activate Your Joy

Posted By: on May 16, 2019
girl jumping for joy
We find ourselves drowning far too often. Drowning in dark thoughts, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt. The list truly goes on and on and on. I remember one day reading how important this thing called joy was. It was necessary and we were called to have it. But I wasn’t quite sure I was “feeling” it or even knew what “it” was. In my definition, joy was a feeling. (If I didn’t feel joyful or happy or pleasant, I must not have it.) I soon realized that it is a trained position of the hear