While there may be a whole host of causes for low self-esteem in adults, some are more common than others, such as childhood trauma or unhealthy relationships. Below are examples of how these causes can affect you as an adult, and what you can do to help boost your feelings of self-worth and esteem.
Unhappy childhoods and their after-effects:
Any number of people that you were surrounded by when growing up could have contributed towards your low self-esteem, but it’s most often people you’ve looked up to, including parents and older siblings. If you experienced harsh criticism from any of these as you were growing up, you were probably left with some feelings of bring inadequate and unworthy.
Many young adults also find themselves growing up with low self-esteem as a result of not having had a committed and dependable figure in their earlier lives to model themselves after, or by having one who was neglectful or abusive.
The after-effects of a traumatic, unhappy or confused childhood can be enduring and difficult to cope with for the individual, and many continue through their adult lives if they never seek professional help for this.
Negative experiences while at school:
The time you spent at school can have a huge impact upon how you continue to grow, and how well you learn to cope with the stresses and strains of life as an adult. If you didn’t thrive at school, either academically, physically or socially (or all three), then there’s little doubt that this would have left an indelible imprint upon you and perhaps even had a significant effect upon your adult life.
If you choose to seek professional help to try and regain your sense of self-worth and esteem, your chosen counselor may begin by talking to you about your childhood and school days and help guide you through some of the emotions that you might have experienced back then (and may still be experiencing). They will then teach you how to overcome them and prevent them from holding you back in life.
If your partner or a significant other person in your life treats you poorly, then your self-esteem may well reflect this. If you live with the person or see them often, then there may be little opportunity for you to escape such negativity, and only with appropriate counseling might you learn how to remove them from your life or learn to address their behavior and/or comments, whichever response is deemed more suitable.
Having low self-esteem can affect every aspect of your life, and if you struggle with feeling worthless or have a fear of failure, then it’s time you sought help from a mental health professional. Your counselor will help to show you that once you learn how to like yourself and believe in yourself, then every other aspect of your life will begin to improve, and while it may take longer for some than others, it will happen, and you are worth it.
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