There are a lot of things in life that make people angry. Some situations merit the emotion. Others, however, may not. If you sometimes find yourself reacting with anger, perhaps you’d like to work on better coping mechanisms with a therapist or try following some of the suggestions below.
Oftentimes, anger is fear-driven. It can occur when a person feels like they’re losing control of a situation. Anger also comes up when a person feels physically or mentally threatened by another person or event. As we know, lashing out at others seldom makes the situation better and often leads to you feeling even worse.
Here are some productive ways to deal with anger:
- Write it down. Find a quiet space to be alone with your thoughts. Write down how you’re feeling and what triggered the response. Come up with one action that you can take to change the situation. This puts the power in your hands and not someone else’s. Even if you don’t feel like speaking to the person that made you angry right away, you’ll have a proposed resolution ready when you do decide to have a conversation with them.
- Take a walk. Removing yourself from the situation is an effective way of dealing with anger. If you’re in a position to excuse yourself to get a drink of water or go to the bathroom, do so. Give yourself time to process the situation without speaking. When our emotions get the best of us, it often complicates matters more. Take time to cool down before responding.
Anger is a natural response. You shouldn’t feel ashamed for feeling angry. There are, however, helpful responses to anger.
By recognizing the feeling when it comes up, you’re better able to manage it. Follow the list of tips mentioned above for ways to channel your energy into something positive. You’ll become proactive rather than reactive.