There are many parts to each of us—the emotional, the physical, the cognitive, and the sexual. It’s important we find healthy ways to express our naturalness in all these ways.
The more we’re in touch with our hearts, our minds, our bodies, and our sexuality, the better. And more we can express these parts of ourselves in healthy, vital ways, the better.
From a sexual perspective, it’s healthy for all of us to be in touch with our sexual selves—o know ourselves as sexual beings who long for contact with one another in this way.
If we’re married and have a partner, sex can be an important part of our bonding with one another, increasing our desire to be together and increasing our willingness to give to one another—both in the bedroom and outside of it. Sex draws us together and makes us more willing to compromise, to understand, and to care for.
There’s no one right way to express our sexuality, and it’s important that we allow ourselves permission to find our own unique, healthy ways to express ourselves sexually.
If we’re uncomfortable with our sexuality, or parts of our sexuality, it’s good to find a person—be it our partner, our friend, or our therapist—to talk with about our sexual selves. For many of us, talking about sex has been taboo, and that’s kept us from learning and growing.
Just like it’s important to express our feelings and not repress them, it’s important to express our sexuality in words with trusted people first.