Whenever we have disappointments and heartbreaks in our life, we feel wounded and we feel that pain. We sometimes want to seclude ourselves from others and stay in our wounds. Remaining in our wounds does not help improve life. Caring for yourself is what you need to do to help you heal.
Do the Small Things to Care for Yourself
Doing small things that bring you some joy and/or self-care can help you feel better about life, even if it is in that moment. Being kind to yourself in the moment can help you realize that you can be at peace again even after you are wounded. Spend some time with people that you love and trust who can be there to comfort you.
From Bitterness to Compassion
One thing that you can do to help heal your wounds is to actually feel compassion for yourself, and even (in time) compassion for those who have hurt you. When we hold on to our bitterness, we hold on to our pain. Compassion for those who have hurt us – understanding that they too are hurting and simply acting out – allows us to move beyond our bitterness. Compassion is not always an easy process, but it is what can heal our hurts.
This does not necessarily mean that you allow the person that hurt you back in your life and have the relationship that you had before. You can create boundaries with that person – if they remain in your life – to keep them from hurting you again.
Talk to Your Therapist about Self Care
If you are looking for ways to heal your wounded parts, it’s important to talk with your therapist about this. They can advise you on what you should be doing to help yourself heal after you have been hurt.