In an ideal world, all of us would have been raised in a two-parent home by parents who were loving, attentive and emotionally available. They would have talked to us about our feelings, asked about our days, and shared their own emotions openly and honestly with us. Unfortunately, many people are raised by parents who don’t talk about feelings. It’s called Childhood Emotional Neglect when a parent doesn’t respond to a child’s emotional needs. Here are some of the impacts of growing up with emotionally neglectful parents.
1. You Don’t Understand Your Own Emotions
If your parents didn’t teach you how to identify and cope with your emotions, you’ll have a hard time understanding them as an adult. You won’t know how to identify and express your feelings.
2. You Have Trouble Managing Difficult Situations
Instead of learning how to cope when things get difficult, you lash out or completely withdraw. Since your parents didn’t teach you how to deal when something didn’t go your way, you may have a hard time when life throws you a curve ball.
3. You Have Low Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the ability to be aware of, control and express your emotions. It allows to you address problems gracefully and handle relationships with empathy. People with low emotional intelligence may have difficulty controlling their emotions, struggle with sympathy, and have trouble maintaining relationships.
So what should you do if you were raised by emotionally neglectful parents? The best thing you can do is to learn about emotions. Know how to identify and express your own emotions, and how to identify and deal with others’ emotions. This will help you with you cope with life and improve your relationships. Seeking professional help through a therapist or counselor can help you improve your emotional intelligence.