Relationships do not always go as planned. There will be some bumps and some curves. A healthy relationship is not one where both parties are always happy. It is one where tough times and disagreements can be worked out…together. There is always room for improvements and ways to deepen the relationship. The most important thing to keep in mind is that a healthy relationship is a two-way street that gets fixed over and over.
Accept their quirks and interests. A common reason why relationships fall apart after the honeymoon phase is because someone had unrealistic expectations. Perhaps you wished your partner was wealthier, more attractive, or smarter. We all have had those moments. However, the best way to overcome this is to slowly understand and accept who they really are.
Try new things together. A relationship is more than just telling others you are with someone. It is a dynamic process that changes and grows. If you treat your relationship as something that just is…you are not letting it develop. Do not hesitate to try new things together as a couple to see what happens. You never know what the relationship might become if you do not try.
Seek Couple Counseling. Know when it is time to seek an outside perspective on your relationship. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to someone, personal or professional, for your relationship. The eroded relationship might be because of mistrust or gain in “baggage.” A third party may be able to reconcile differences and set your relationship on the right path to success. In addition, counseling can provide new ways for resolving future conflicts.
Expecting your relationship to be perfect all the time is an unrealistic and unhealthy expectation. Focus less on how can we be perfect and focus more on how can we deepen our relationship. Know when it is time to seek help or counseling. These small steps will lead to greater growth in the future.