What Does a Therapist Do?

Posted By: on October 18, 2017
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There are many misconceptions of who therapists are and what they do. Many people imagine that therapists simply are sitting in chairs while their patients are lying on couches and they ask, “how do you feel about that?” Therapists are so much more. We are truly here to help you improve your mental health and help you live a happier life. Here are some of the things that therapists are able to do.Therapists Help You Understand the Root of Your ProblemsYou cannot solve a problem unless you kn

The Importance of Being Kind to Others

Posted By: on October 04, 2017
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Nobody’s perfect, and there are times in everyone’s life when being kind just doesn’t come naturally. Sometimes it feels easier to become angry and hurtful to others when others have been angry towards you, but this just leads to all of us continuously hurting one another. Being kind is not only beneficial for other’s mental health, but it is good for yours as well. You Don’t Know What Others Are Going ThroughWhen someone is unkind to us, often times we react by being unkind to them. H

Learning to Regulate Ourselves: Reacting vs. Overreacting

Posted By: on September 20, 2017
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Sometimes difficult situations, such as arguments or miscommunications, can cause people to become angry and instead of reacting the way that they should, they overreact. Of course, it is important to react to situations and feel emotions when we should, but there is a difference between reacting and overreacting. Overreacting to a situation can be off-putting and it can cause rifts between friendships. Learning how to regulate yourself and your behavior when you are angry can help keep your rel

Unwanted Change: How to Find Your Footing When Life Knocks You Down

Posted By: on September 06, 2017
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Life changes in an instant and this is something that many people undergoing therapy or counseling know all too well. The monumental impact of loss feels crippling. It’s hard to know what to do when life knocks you down.Four Steps in Responding to a CrisisAccording to Psychology Today author, Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D. there are four steps in responding to a crisis. They are Acknowledge, Accept, Allow, and Adapt. To “move towards the future,” one must accept the circumstances that they fa

Reality Testing: How to Check Our Assumptions in Relationships

Posted By: on August 23, 2017
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A barrier to good communication is assuming that we know how our partner feels at any given time. We take things out of context, misread messages, and sometimes make mountains out of molehills. Assumptions can be very damaging to relationships.One of the concepts taught to couples in counseling is reality testing or how to check out our assumptions in relationships. If left unaddressed, these misconceptions can lead to greater problems between a person and his or her spouse, girlfriend or boyfri

Tips for Making Important Life Decisions

Posted By: on August 09, 2017
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 Making important life decisions takes careful consideration. It’s not always your responsibility alone, either. When there is more than one person involved in the decision-making process, it can be difficult. That’s where couple’s counseling helps.It allows you to work together toward a common goal. With a shared outcome comes relief. There aren’t disagreements or insults threatening the sanctity of your relationship because you’re working on healing as a couple.Instead, you’re abl

Guilt vs Shame: How Understanding the Difference Can Help You Live a Better Life 

Posted By: on July 26, 2017
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The human mind is very complex. As licensed therapists and counselors who assist individuals and couples, our role at Heart-Centered Counseling is getting to know what causes our patients’ struggles in life. Helping them understand the difference between guilt and shame is part of the approach to healing. If you struggle with knowing how the two differ, you’ll find the answer to be life affirming.Dr. Brené Brown, author and well-known shame researcher, sums up the difference between guilt a

Grief: Letting People Love You So You Don’t Have to Grieve Alone

Posted By: on July 12, 2017
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Grief is often crippling. It sneaks up out of nowhere and paralyzes you. If you’ve had a traumatic experience to deal with such as the loss of a job, an accident or illness, the dissolution of a relationship or the death of a loved one, you may not be coping with the changes as well as you could. You may be shutting people out without even realizing it.Distance Does Not Make the Heart Grow FonderIsolation compounds grief. It makes you feel alone in your sadness when in reality, other people fe

Anger: What to Do and Not to Do with Your Anger

Posted By: on July 06, 2017
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There are a lot of things in life that make people angry. Some situations merit the emotion. Others, however, may not. If you sometimes find yourself reacting with anger, perhaps you’d like to work on better coping mechanisms with a therapist or try following some of the suggestions below.Oftentimes, anger is fear-driven. It can occur when a person feels like they’re losing control of a situation. Anger also comes up when a person feels physically or mentally threatened by another person or

How Knowing Your Attachment Style Can Help You

Posted By: on June 14, 2017
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Adult attachment styles often develop during childhood and carry on into adulthood. They influence the way to look at and behave in relationships with others. There are four main attachment styles in adults—secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant.Adults with secure attachment styles typically have a strong sense of self and desire to be close to others. Their lives are balanced, since they are happy with themselves and their relationships with others. Those who a